{Podcast} Self-Care, Cancer & Making Friends with Guilt

{Podcast} Self-Care, Cancer & Making Friends with Guilt

NEW MINDBODYFOOD PODCAST SERIES I have an inspiring and awesome new free resource for you, in the form of my brand new MindBodyFood Podcast series. An easily downloadable audio mp3 interview and meditations series you can listen to on the go. Hormones and Self-Care are huge topics for many women, so first up is an honest, practical and very inspiring self-care journey that started with a shock thyroid cancer diagnosis at 23, forcing a high-achieving, people-pleasing music teacher to reassess her life choices and start making herself and her health a priority. This meant learning to make friends with guilt and stop feeling resentful when

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What’s Holding You Back?

What's Holding You Back?

  Have you ever shown up and did something that you weren’t initially sure about – do I know enough, can I pull this off, will I be able to deliver – but then totally surprised yourself by how much fun you had, and how comfortably you took to it when you did? That’s how I feel now after finally stepping up to the plate this year and teaching the yoga portion of the first half of my yoga and meditation classes. I love teaching meditation – I love teaching, connecting and engaging with people in general. But I hadn’t realised just how

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Are Food Rules Ruining Your Social Life

Are Food Rules Ruining Your Social Life

How to Let Go of Food Rules How many times a day do you tell yourself, “I can’t have that”? And what happens when you tell yourself you can’t have something?….. It’s like talking to a child: you either focus on it and want it more, question and barter with yourself until you’re worn out and give in, or just eat it in an act of defiance anyway. If dieting has become a way of life for you then it’s highly probable all those guidelines and restrictions have left some lingering do’s and don’ts that are tangled up in your negative self-talk and

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5 Ways to Start the Year Without Dieting

5 Ways to Start the Year Without Dieting

Well dear readers, it’s a brand new year. And research shows that January is usually accompanied by resolutions to lose weight, change employment or finally sort out your finances. Which category are you focused on? Because of the area I specialize in, many people who employ my coaching and therapy services in the new year are usually wanting to lose weight, be happy, and find more peace and inner calm. The biggest lesson I teach them is that they won’t find what they’re looking for by going on a new diet. What your body desperately wants and needs is homeostasis,

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Let Go of Anger to Make Way for Forgiveness

Let Go of Anger to Make Way for Forgiveness

Turn Anger to Forgiveness Forgiveness is a huge topic that can often open up many old wounds, stifling our ability to live fully and freely in the now. Angry thoughts of injustice, vengeance and retaliation can run riot in your mind, creating more stress and discomfort in your body. Forgiveness is generally defined as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you. This conscious act is done regardless of whether the person or group actually deserves your forgiveness. Just as important as defining what forgiveness is, though, is understanding what forgiveness

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Why You Need to Love Yourself + Free PDF Printable

Why You Need to Love Yourself + Free PDF Printable

Do You Love Yourself? FREE Self-Love Reminders Printable PDF below!   I used to loathe myself. Love was a word that didn’t compute. I could never truly accept love because I didn’t know how to feel it for myself. As babies we are born happy, loveable and wanting to love. But what happens when we experience feelings of neglect, criticism or abandonment in our childhood…. that we feel the hurt so strongly and intensely as children we appoint ourselves to blame and internalise our pain? As we grow, a part of us begins to believe we are unworthy of love…. That inner child who felt unsafe and

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Stop Dieting, Start Living

Stop Dieting, Start Living

When Dieting Takes Over From Living   Being on a diet is like forcing your real life body to squeeze into a Barbie and Ken sized dollhouse. Not a great fit if you really want to feel at home there. Does weighing all your food, watching your food portions and eating to the clock actually satisfy your hunger? What about when the rebel in you says, “Stuff it! I’m so hungry and I hate this food. I’m going to eat that cake anyway”? And what if you can’t stop at one piece after a week of willpower and restriction, and end

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Body Hate, Dieting & the Scales: Audio Interview

Body Hate, Dieting & the Scales: Audio Interview

Body Hate, Dieting & the Scales Audio Interview Thank you Robyn Patton Intuitive Nourishment who interviewed me recently about body hate, dieting, the scales & vulnerability. ‪ Time for some #‎realtalk‬ so we can get comfortable with uncomfortable feelings and make space for learning to navigate them. Let me know what you think! V xo     About Viki Viki Thondley is a Mind-Body Wellness Specialist and qualified Holistic Counsellor, Food, Stress & Lifestyle Coach, Meditation Therapist, and Eating Disorder Recovery Coach who inspires women to shift from limited thinking, low self-esteem and restriction to whole-self nourishment, body confidence and whole food healing. Recovered from bulimia

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Overcome Negative Body Image

Overcome Negative Body Image

Overcome Negative Body-Image Here’s how just one of many clients did it! Sometimes in my coaching practice I need to get down into the pit with a client… really sit down in the mud with them and wade through the shit in their lives. It’s my job to hold steadfast as an anchor for them while they experience losing control or embracing their fear. Whatever the overwhelming emotion is, I’m always willing to go to the depths with them in order to help guide them back out of it. Not many traditional therapists allow themselves to do that, with the idea

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Body Image, Acceptance and the Dreaded Scales

Body Image, Acceptance and the Dreaded Scales

Body Image and the Dreaded Scales So after I shared my previous Vulnerability post today THIS happened…… Warning – Real and honest body talk here after they made me get on the scales… Well, actually I chose to. It was either get on or don’t donate. #BIMGA #bodyimagemovement Posted by Mindbodyfood with Viki Thondley on Monday, October 26, 2015   About Viki Viki Thondley is a Mind-Body Wellness Specialist and qualified Holistic Counsellor, Food, Stress & Lifestyle Coach, Meditation Therapist, and Eating Disorder Recovery Coach who inspires women to shift from limited thinking, low self-esteem and restriction to whole-self nourishment, body confidence and

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I Felt Like a Fat Failure

I Felt Like a Fat Failure

VULNERABILITY ALERT… (spoiler, I’m not perfect) Yesterday I felt like a fat, inauthentic, hypocritical failure. I know I’ve gotten into some bad habits this year as I’ve struggled to balance a growing business and demand for my time with now building a second training institute, being a supportive partner, a loving and present step-mum, and delivering consistent energy and enthusiasm at my classes, workshops and live events. Somewhere in there I forgot to PRIORITISE myself. I forgot that my body doesn’t like missing breakfast, and especially does NOT like skipping lunch or being delayed to the point of feeling famished.

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Is Being Healthy Your Obsession?

Is Being Healthy Your Obsession?

I really dislike labels. I especially dislike labelling the way we eat, the way we look, and the way we behave. “I eat clean. I am fat. I am a perfectionist.” Why do we need to make judgement instead of making way for growth, understanding and change? Labelling the way we eat is a dangerous tendency. We get so caught up in whether we’re doing it right or not. It develops a righteous thinking attitude, that for some can translate into control: If I can control my healthy diet, I can control the way I feel. Strong, intelligent and capable

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Stop Controlling Food

Stop Controlling Food

Who’s in Control? You or Food? QUESTION for you: Why are you so afraid to let go of controlling your food? Is the answer something like, “Because I’ll put on weight!” So you’re afraid of putting on weight and that’s why you control your food so rigidly? Ok. So what if you do put on some weight? Will it kill you? Will you suddenly become unlovable? Will your family and co-workers disown you? No! Maybe your body might put on a little weight in an attempt to trust you enough to nourish it regularly before it can regain a sense of

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Let Go of Control

Let Go of Control

Let Go of Control & Be Yourself A client came to see me with a desperate sense of her life being out of control, specifically, her obsessive thoughts about food, eating, and her body. She had been struggling with her inner world for so long, that it took a lot of courage to even type up an email and reach out for help. When she arrived at my door with a cool and calm exterior, she gave off an air of “I’m okay, everything is fine”. Despite all her efforts though I could sense her internal chaos. She was wound up inside

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Is Food Controlling Your Life?

Is Food Controlling Your Life?

Is Food Controlling Your Life…. Or are you just eating your feelings?   So many people have an unhealthy relationship with food. They habitually use it for comfort, distraction and punishment instead of true nourishment, information and energy for the brain and body. Your relationship with food is usually a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself. When clients come to me for food issues, they are totally exhausted from fighting back emotions and living inside their heads. No matter how hard they try, they just can’t seem to get a handle on their eating! Is this really the way

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