Is Food Controlling Your Life….
Or are you just eating your feelings?
So many people have an unhealthy relationship with food. They habitually use it for comfort, distraction and punishment instead of true nourishment, information and energy for the brain and body.
Your relationship with food is usually a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself.
When clients come to me for food issues, they are totally exhausted from fighting back emotions and living inside their heads.
No matter how hard they try, they just can’t seem to get a handle on their eating!
Is this really the way to live happily and healthily in your mind and body?
They are filled with negative and hateful self-talk, believing that if only they could fix their relationship with food and stop it controlling their lives, they’d be happier, healthier and thinner.
Our eating challenges are often pointing to something deeper than we realise.
When I sit down with clients and listen to their story, it usually becomes apparent that food is not their problem; it’s merely a symptom of a deeper issue.
What was originally a problem they saw with food, is revealed to be a problem they have in other areas of their lives that they are using food to cope with.
Do You Eat Your Feelings?
Anxiety, loneliness, boredom and anger are emotions we all experience throughout life. Each has its own emotional trigger, and each has its own appeasement.
When you struggle to push through the discomfort of pent-up emotions, your unmet needs can often turn into unhealthy habits that temporarily soothe, comfort or satiate those feelings.
There are many different emotions that can overcome us, and yet instead of allowing ourselves some breathing room to process and release them, we often try to smother, distract or ignore those feelings with our go-to foods.
Which type of foods you reach for could be an insightful indication of what your emotional triggers are. For example:
- Ice-cream, chocolate and yoghurt are classic comfort foods to soothe
- Crunchy chips and fizzy soft drinks suggest unexpressed frustration or anger
- Bread, pizza and pasta are great fillers for a lonely heart or an unfulfilled need
Food won’t fix any of these feelings. It may comfort you in the short term, distract you from your pain, or even numb you into a food hangover.
But food won’t solve your problem because food is NOT your problem – it’s more an unhelpful method of coping with the real issue.
When you feel overwhelmed, stressed, or depressed do you:
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Eat
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Self-Starve or Restrict
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Compulsively Overeat
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Binge and/or Purge
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A little of Everything
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Drink Alcohol
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Retail Therapy – Shopping
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None of the Above/Other
Find ways to comfort, nurture, distract, and resolve your issues without using food!
This could include journaling, setting boundaries, reducing stress, increasing self-esteem, or working with a body-image coach or emotional eating specialist (ME!) to help you get to the root cause of your eating habits and behaviours.
If food feels like it’s controlling your life, get in touch for the help you need….
- Disordered Eating Program (ED, EE, BE): https://www.mindbodyfood.net/eating-disorders/
- Signature Lifestyle Empowerment Program: https://www.mindbodyfood.net/mindbodyfood-program/
PS – CAN YOU HELP? Wanting your feedback and thoughts…..
For a VERY long time now I’ve had a brand new program in my head and heart that I’ve been wanting to put out there for people who struggle with emotional eating – binge-eating, over-eating, boredom-eating, stress-eating.
If you have a crazy, out of control relationship with food or eating that you’d like to finally gain control over in a holistic and root cause, sustainable way then PLEASE HELP ME, HELP YOU!
I want to address and cover all the fears, behaviours and obstacles that YOU have with your emotional eating, can you spare a few minutes to SUBMIT BELOW whatever comes up for you when you think of your own relationship with food and eating?
– What is your biggest challenge with food and/or eating?
– What behaviours overtake you and leave you feeling guilty, shamed, stuffed?
– How do your eating habits interfere with your life and/or happiness?
– How would you like things to be different?
With your feedback I can make sure I am putting together the most practical, comprehensive and supportive emotional eating program to guide you!
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
Love V xo
About Viki
Viki Thondley is a Brain-Body Wellness Specialist and qualified Holistic Counsellor, Meditation Therapist, Wellness Coach and Eating Psychology expert who inspires women to rewire their mindset from dieting and restriction to whole-self nourishment, self-care and whole food healing. Recovered from bulimia nervosa and the many years of hormonal imbalances, food prison and self-sabotaging behaviours’, Viki is an inspiring speaker and passionate coach who empowers clients with self-love, internal happiness, body confidence and real food freedom.
She is author of “Achieving Your Wellness: Create a Life You Love” and “Healthy Chocolate Delights: Real Food Sweet Treats”.
