Body Confidence Boost

This weeks’ blog is for all those women and young girls who can’t stand to look at themselves in the mirror – without judgement.

I know how challenged you feel at the mere thought of looking in the mirror and liking what you see – let alone asserting you actually love the disappointment who looks back at you.

It’s hard to be a self-assured and secure woman in today’s society.

Even on a good day one phrase, one word, one look can be all it takes to dent that hard won self-confidence of the woman in the mirror – the same woman who may not have picture perfect skin, glossy hair, luminous make up, a fashion wardrobe, or size 6 model body.

In fact, you might even think how ordinary or ugly you are in comparison.

As women particularly, we are challenged to confront our worth at every turn: glossy magazine pages of digitally beautified models; reality TV shows with people looking anything but real; the latest fad diet advertising envious before and after shots, all making us wonder if we measure up.

To all that I say, Bollocks!

Don’t allow others to make you think you’re not good enough or worthy.

You don’t need those overpriced special creams, new miracle diets, or max-out-your-credit card label clothing.

Your self-esteem would boost itself effortlessly with some self-belief, self-acceptance, self-love and perhaps even forgiveness.

It is your right as a woman, as an individual, as the keeper of your inner spirit, to praise and celebrate the woman in the mirror:

Admire her uniqueness, her individual beauty and her personalised expressions
See the love in her heart, her strength, her compassion and her humour

Through ups and downs, laughter and pain this woman you are, this body you have is yours for the rest of your life.

Take the time to really look at yourself in the mirror this week and see the woman you have become, or the woman you are becoming:

Care for her with regular time to breathe, stretch, listen and be quiet
Nurture her with relaxing activities and adequate rest
Respect her with kind and positive thoughts
Nourish her with natural, whole foods that don’t require chemicals, unhealthy fats or refined sugars
Show her gratitude and love for all that she does for you
Remind her of her playful side and take her for a walk, a swim, a swing, a movie

Honour her, love her. Be her best friend first and she will be yours.

As women, we are inherently beautiful. We are unique and individual.

Each and every one of us possesses our own unique inner light and gifts.

We only hold ourselves back from being the best versions of ourselves when we allow external influence to question our internal worth.

Every day, one realistic step at a time, you CAN make small changes that over a week, a month, a year will add up to the version of yourself that you might now be envisioning or wishing for.

Until you make that conscious choice to think well of yourself, make consistent daily choices that serve you instead of hurt you, and gather people around you that celebrate who you are, you will always be relying on outside approval to validate your worth.

First validate yourself by getting familiar and comfortable with your own reflection.

Start liking the woman who needs your love the most.

She has so much to give you in return.

Love yourself

Transformational Coach, Psychotherapeutic Counsellor & Integrative Clinical Therapist
Freedom and Recovery from your Emotional, Weight & Eating Issues